The Thai Experience

After more or less negative first impressions of Pattaya my stopover in Thailand finally became one of the greatest experiences ever. I moved to Mojis room and we have spend almost all time together. I learned much about the scene, met her friends and discovered that there is in fact a sphere between male and female. Behaving like sexy gals, tabledancing in the dancing in the room, making jokes of their customers or falling in love with them, being so beautiful, they are all in any physical state between the sexes. As a consequence they are standing on the verge of the society. A matter which is due to the narrow-mindedness of the people. For my part, their nature and their dignity deeply impresses me. Moji goes to the tempel as often as possible. She asked me to join her. So Moji, Bee and me went to a tempel in Thonburi (Bangkok) for three days and two nights. That meant dressing in a white robe, sleeping on the ground, waking up 4am, eating not after 11am and prayers and meditation the whole day. I can tell you how much my feet, knees and back suffered from pain. But the aim is to relieve the pain from your body. To become strong enough to bear these procedures means to become strong enough to bear the hardships of life. That´s why they go to the tempel – if possible every weekend, and for a little while almost each day.





Boys? Girls? Beautiful people!

All these experiences strenghten me on my path towards change in my life, in order to do better. A first small “change” was already done when I got my hair cut after 5 years. And it does indeed look much better. The guys in the salon seemed to be the only Vietnamese in Pattaya and freaked out when I spoke to them in their language. Monday evening we´ve been to a ladyboy cabaret. Very nice show with changing themes and stages, colourful and glamorous, great. And the ladies were styled like on a fashion show – high class Kathoey. And by now I don´t keep the opinion anymore that you have to search for Kathoey in Thailand. Now, having practiced my eyes for identification, I see them almost on evey street corner. It does really seem that Thailand is the country of the “third sex”. That´s why Thailand is such an interesting place for me. And they are looking so good – even better than girls! ...why you sometimes really cannot determine and believe that you´re walking next to a gracious woman. The sex and gender definition is in this case very difficult due to the fact that they are each on a certain stage of transformation. And maybe this all teaches us that the difference does not even have to emphasized, because besides being proud to be a ladyboy many suffer from the circumstances and have the only aim to be a 100 percent girl and we can probably go without our habitualized binary classification.

Now I arrived in Bali. Udayana University and the internship at the consulting group have to be done. I suppose it will be a piece of hard work, but nevertheless I will habe the chance to meet further challenging experiences. The first one will be to find a convenient place to stay at.